The day of love. It is also the perfect day to propose or even get married.
It is a day set aside for love. And aside from my two loves, who will be getting something special this year (yes the same as last year, but it comes from the heart), I also love the side affects of the special day.
Oh yeah, and the sales that go on for days afterward as I can get my hands on those marshmallow chocolate hearts, ummm, umm – but I digress.
The day envisions a feeling of love and being with those we love. Sometimes circumstances may stop us from physically being there, but they are forever in our hearts and mind.
Why does the day capture us so much?
Maybe it is because regardless of what you may tell your friends, we all want to be loved. And to be loved we have to let down our guard and love someone. When you are willing to do that, love can fill your heart and the Lifetime Movie Channel apparently.
Once again I will digress.
We oftentimes search for love so much and let our guard down so far that if you are not careful you let the wolf in the door, not Cupid. The idea of a diaper wearing matchmaker, though intriguing, is still quite disturbing to me. But once again, I digress.
If we let the wrong person in or we allow someone we love to abuse the situation, often times we may not want to admit we messed up. That is how people get stuck in situations with people they should not be with if for no other reason that it is not healthy for them.
In those cases, fear is substituted for love and the person in fear also fears that if they don’t stay where they are, if they don’t allow the other person to be in control, then they will go unloved.
They don’t want that, so they stay in misery and call it love.
Or how about the parent or friend that loves someone in their lives so much they take care of their every need. Even the ones where they should let their loved one work their way throughit.
It is those life lessons that they need, but then we jump in and stop them from learning. And we wonder why they are not working and we are bailing them out well into their 30’s.
That’s a form of love I guess. But allowing them to grow, learn some hard lessons and watching them work through situations so they can take care of themselves without having to depend on others for everything, that is love too.
That is probably the most efficient form of love. Teach them in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it.
I think I read that some place before.
Helping when they truly need it is much different that helping in every tough situation. When do they get to be grown ups? Who will take care of them after we are gone if they can’t do it themselves?
God has a form of love that knows no bounds.
He loves us all no matter what. He helps when we need help and allows us to climb the mountains of life so we can learn how peaceful a quiet time in our life really is.
He is fair and always there, but stern and watchful as we sometimes refuse His love, only to come running back when times get tough.
Maybe if we showed love to everyone, helped those we can and allow our young people a chance to learn as they grow but not always bailing them out but by being there as a morale booster sometimes, not a savior.
Someone else already has that position. All we can do is love them, care for them and let them grow. That is love. Not doing it all for them, not protecting them when they have to face the consequence of their mistakes, but be close at hand as they deal with it.
Much like we did for our kids when they were learning to walk or ride a bike.
Love is not easy.
You may have to say no if you love someone sometimes. But love can be forever and it can be a valuable asset to our lives. That is, if we know what love really is.
I’m just saying . . .
(I just wanted to say that I love all of you, many in the way God wants us to love people. I love some like brothers and sisters and of course I love my wife and daughter with all my heart. But my love for God is unmatched, and so is his love for me & you.
Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!)